Let’s be honest, passion doesn’t disappear overnight. Work deadlines, family responsibilities and everyday stress can slowly turn lovers into roommates.
That’s where Vus’ Umlilo steps in. Hosted by renowned sexologist Dr Mthembu, the intervention reality show shines a bold and sometimes cheeky, spotlight on 4 couples who’ve lost their spark. Over the few weeks, the show reminds us that intimacy is something you nurture, not something you hope magically returns.
If your relationship needs a little heat, here are practical ways to reignite the flame
1.Talk about intimacy 🔥
Desire thrives on communication. Speak honestly about what you miss, what excites you, and what’s changed. These conversations don’t need to be heavy or awkward. As Dr Mthembu often shows on Vus’ Umlilo, humour and honesty go a long way in breaking down walls.
2. Break the routine 🙅♀️
Predictability is passion’s biggest enemy. Change your environment: a surprise date night, a weekend away, or even a different setting at home can shift energy instantly. New experiences create new memories and new desire.
3. Prioritise non-sexual touch 🤗
Intimacy isn’t only about sex. Holding hands, cuddling, foreplay, kisses without expectations, these moments rebuild emotional closeness, which naturally fuels physical connection.
4. Explore together 👫
Be curious. Whether it’s trying something new in the bedroom, reading about intimacy, or even watching shows like Vus’ Umlilo together, learning as a couple can open doors you didn’t know were closed.
5. Ask for help when needed 👩⚕️
There’s no shame in guidance. Sometimes an outside perspective, like Dr Mthembu’s expert interventions, help couples unpack deeper issues blocking passion. Sometimes, a healthy threesome is needed, you, your partner and a professional.
See some advice from Dr Mthembu below:
This Valentine’s weekend, apart from the chocolates and roses, try and focus on meaningful connection, honest conversations, and intentional intimacy.
Watch Dr Mthembu on Vus’ Umlilo, Fridays at 21:30 and join in the conversation using #Vusumlilo on X, Facebook and Instagram.